HOW TO BE YOUR BEST WHEN YOUR KIDS ARE AT THEIR WORST! WISDOM FROM JEWEL + KIM JOHN PAYNE

Being a busy mom of 2 high energy daughters,  I was on the edge of my seat listening to Kim John Payne and Jewel discuss the beautiful concepts of Simplicity Parenting at this years Sun Valley Wellness Festival.  

Pure genius…

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  • As a parent you must get rid of the noise so that you can hear the rhythm of your soul
     
  • There are no disobedient children, only disoriented ones
     
  • Why do kids seem to push every one of your buttons?  They are simply “nautically” pinging you to get their bearings
     
  • How can we be at our most oriented when our kids are their most disoriented?
     
  • Magnetic North is the phenomenon of getting pulled from your TRUE NORTH by social influences (i.e. what other moms are doing, saying…)
     
  • Above all, identify what your family VALUES are.  Check in each am + pm to audit whether your actions reflected your values.
     
  • Be unconventional.  If the needs of your children are being met and you are living by your families values, that is all that matters.
     
  • When your children misbehave, become inquisitive not accusatory
     
  • Yelling is a stress REGRESS
     
  • Do not let yourself escalate….if you are hysterical it is historical and your reaction has nothing to do with what is presently happening
     
  • Don’t be conflict averse, move towards the pain and ask “why”
     
  • Parenting is a practice.  Most things you do well and enjoy, you practice.
     
  • Break the action-reaction cycle
     
  • Open up your vocal range with your children
     
  • Find your own voice
     
  • Work is the antidote to being spoiled.  Spoiling your children is a form of abuse that leaves not a mark but a huge scar.  It robs your children of self empowerment.
     
  • The key is to be strong vs being on one end of the spectrum (not overly kind or overly strict).  

These words of wisdom landing firmly in my soul.


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